Hardcopy, $12.97

"Empathy is demonstrating an understanding of another's feelings and needs." Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication

What it is

A reference for the full vocabulary of inner life: 108 feelings and 108 needs, each with a clear definition and a set of synonyms. Where The Empathy Set® cards help you find the words in the moment, the dictionary is the book you sit with, to understand a word precisely, tell two close feelings apart, and build the vocabulary the rest of the work depends on.

It grows out of Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication, and it defines each need as a need for oneself and others, which makes it as much a guide to understanding yourself as anyone else.

How to use it

Read an entry when you can feel something but can't name it, and let the definition show you whether the word fits. Use it to move from a vague reaction to the precise feeling underneath, and from the feeling to the need it points to. And when you're ready to speak, it gives you the language to build a clear "I" statement: what you observed, what you felt, what you needed, and what you'd like to ask for.

Who it's for

Anyone building their emotional vocabulary, on their own or alongside the cards. It's a steady companion for reflection and journaling, and a working reference for mediators, therapists, coaches, and trainers who need precise language at hand.

What you get

A hardcopy reference defining 108 feelings and 108 needs, with synonyms throughout. Also available as a PDF for $1.97.

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