"Empathy is demonstrating an understanding of another's feelings and needs." Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication

What it is

The Empathy Set® is two decks in one: 56 feelings cards and 56 needs cards. Spread them in front of you, and they help you find what you're actually feeling, name what you need underneath it, and find the words to say both in a way the other person can hear.

That sounds simple, and it is. But it works on something most of us were never taught. When something matters and we don't have the words for it, we either go quiet or we say it in a way that makes things worse. The cards give you the language in between, so you can speak honestly and keep the relationship intact.

They work on your own, when you're trying to understand your own reaction before a hard conversation. They work between two people, when you each need to be understood before anything can move. And once both sets of needs are on the table, they help you find a solution that meets them, rather than a compromise that meets neither.

Who it's for

Anyone who has ever had something important to say and not known how to say it well. That's most of us, most of the time.

At home, the cards help you understand what you and the people closest to you are feeling and needing, with a parent, a partner, a sibling, or a child. At work, they help you prepare for the conversation you've been putting off, with a manager, a colleague, or someone who reports to you. And in the hands of mediators, facilitators, therapists, trainers, and workshop leaders, they become a flexible tool for helping other people find their own words.

What you get

112 cards, 56 feelings and 56 needs, with a guide to using them on your own, with another person, and with a team.

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