John Kinyon

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

What is the difference between a feeling and a judgment? In this article, John Kinyon explores the NVC distinction between feelings and what were traditionally called "faux feelings"—words such as betrayed, ignored, and disrespected. Accompanied by a contemporary editorial note, the post also traces the evolution from "faux feelings" to the more nuanced concept of storied feelings, where the feeling is real but the language carries a story about cause, interpretation, or blame.