You finally said you were hurt, and got a wall of reasons back. The words "you're being defensive" are right there on your tongue. Before you say them, here is what actually gets your hurt to land, even when you are right that they are defending.
How to Stop Getting Accused of Being Defensive
When Empathy is Rejected: Staying Open Without Losing Yourself
The Science of Emotions & Relationships | Huberman Lab Podcast #13
In this episode of the Huberman Lab Podcast, neuroscientist Andrew Huberman explores the biology of emotions, attachment, and relationships. Drawing on neuroscience research, he examines how early attachment experiences, adolescence, hormones, and neurochemistry shape our emotional lives and influence how we connect with others throughout adulthood.
The Tension Between Empathy and Assertiveness
Drawing on a classic article from the Negotiation Journal, John Ford explores the relationship between empathy and assertiveness in negotiation and conflict resolution. The piece examines empathy as accurate, nonjudgmental understanding, explains the role of perspective-taking, and highlights why feeling understood can dramatically shift relationships, reduce conflict, and improve decision-making.