Difficult Conversations

When Anger Speaks to Power

Anger is a protest that something we care about is at stake. This piece explores how to challenge power without causing harm, what people in authority owe those who speak up, and how groups can decide together how anger is expressed and received.

Why "You're Being Defensive" Backfires

You finally said you were hurt, and got a wall of reasons back. The words "you're being defensive" are right there on your tongue. Before you say them, here is what actually gets your hurt to land, even when you are right that they are defending.

When Empathy is Rejected: Staying Open Without Losing Yourself

What happens when your invitation to empathy is met with silence, defensiveness, or dismissal? This article explores how to stay open to connection while honoring your own needs, setting healthy boundaries, and caring for yourself when empathy is not returned.

The Science of Emotions & Relationships | Huberman Lab Podcast #13

In this episode of the Huberman Lab Podcast, neuroscientist Andrew Huberman explores the biology of emotions, attachment, and relationships. Drawing on neuroscience research, he examines how early attachment experiences, adolescence, hormones, and neurochemistry shape our emotional lives and influence how we connect with others throughout adulthood.

The Tension Between Empathy and Assertiveness

Drawing on a classic article from the Negotiation Journal, John Ford explores the relationship between empathy and assertiveness in negotiation and conflict resolution. The piece examines empathy as accurate, nonjudgmental understanding, explains the role of perspective-taking, and highlights why feeling understood can dramatically shift relationships, reduce conflict, and improve decision-making.