Feelings and Needs

Storied Feelings: When a Feeling Carries a Story

What is the difference between a feeling and a judgment? Explore the concept of storied feelings and learn how words like disrespected, betrayed, and ignored can serve as gateways to emotional awareness, empathy, and unmet needs.

Four Ways We Avoid Our Feelings—and What to Do Instead

Why do we distract ourselves, worry, criticize ourselves, or tell stories when uncomfortable emotions arise? Clinical psychologist Sandra Parker explores the ways we avoid our feelings and introduces the concept of "unrest" as a doorway to emotional awareness, self-compassion, and growth.

The Tension Between Empathy and Assertiveness

Drawing on a classic article from the Negotiation Journal, John Ford explores the relationship between empathy and assertiveness in negotiation and conflict resolution. The piece examines empathy as accurate, nonjudgmental understanding, explains the role of perspective-taking, and highlights why feeling understood can dramatically shift relationships, reduce conflict, and improve decision-making.